Spiritual Wisdom:

"So you see, my friends, it is of the greatest importance to recognize that bliss and beauty, which are eternal spiritual realities, are available to all those who seek the key to all problems of human interaction, as well as to loneliness within their own hearts... You cannot ever feel helpless or victimized when the significant transition has taken place in your life, and you no longer render others responsible for what you experience or fail to experience. Thus growth and fulfilled, beautiful living become one and the same.

May you all carry with you new material and inner energy force awakened by your good will. May these words be the beginning of an inner new modality to meet life, to finally make the decision, "I want to risk my good feelings. I want to seek the cause in me rather than in the other person, so that I become free to love." This kind of meditation will indeed bear fruit. If a germ, a particle of this is being carried away tonight, it was truly a fruitful evening. Be blessed, all of you, my dearest friends, so that you become the Gods that you potentially are." (PL #180)

"In order to fuse emotionally, honest exchange, at the risk of occasional crises, is necessary. This honest exchange is totally dependent on the individual's self-honesty and good will to abandon dishonest, hurtful, destructive patterns." (PL #207)

"In order to fuse emotionally, and therefore totally, it is equally necessary to express yourself truthfully toward the other person where this may not be welcome or desired. Not doing so under the guise of "loving goodness" and "taking it" is sentimentality and usually dishonest. For in reality the person merely fears the unpleasant consequences and is thus not willing to risk pain, exposure, confrontation, the hard work of finding reintegration of the relationship on a higher, respectively more profound level. This can be done without guilt and in a healthy way only when you have dealt with and eliminated your cruelty. As long as cruelty exists, you can never, never say the truth to others without hurting them." (PL #207)

"Only when each one grows to his ultimate, to his and her inherent potentials, can the relationship become more and more dynamic and alive. This must be done individually and mutually. When relationship is approached in that way, it will be built on a rock and not on sand. No fear will ever have room under such circumstances. Feelings will expand, and security about the self and each other will grow. Each day and each hour will be a mirror to the inner state of either or both partners and therefore to the relationship. Whenever there is friction or deadness, there must be something stuck, something blind, something that ought to be seen. There must be some interaction between the two people, which is unclarified. If this is understood and properly handled, not only will growth proceed at maximum speed, but happiness, bliss, the feeling of meaningful living and deep profound experience, and ecstasy will grow into forever deeper and more beautiful dimensions." (PL #180)

"Difficulties that arise in a relationship are always a yardstick for something unattended to. It is as though a loud message were being spoken. The sooner it is heeded, the more spiritual energy will be released so that the state of bliss can be expanded and grow along with the inner being of both partners... Every day and every hour, one's inner state and feelings are a testimony to one's state of growth. To the degree this is heeded, the interaction, the feelings, the freedom of flow within and toward each other will blossom. The perfectly mature and spiritually valid relationship must always be deeply connected with personal growth." (PL #180)

"The most challenging, beautiful, spiritually important, and growth-producing kind of relationship is the one between man and woman. The power that brings two people together in love and attraction and the pleasure involved in it are a small aspect of the state of being in cosmic reality. It is as though each created entity knew unconsciously about the bliss of this state and sought to realize it in the most potent way open to humanity. That way is in love and sexuality between man and woman. The power that draws them together is the purest spiritual energy, leading to an inkling of the purest spiritual state." (PL #180)

"My dear friends, no matter what wrong the other person does, if you are disturbed, there must be something in you that you overlook... It is most difficult for people to look within and find the source of the disturbance in themselves. One of the most favorite tendencies of mankind, is the one that says "you are doing it to me" -- making the other person guilty... One human being blames the other, one country blames the other, one group blames the other. This is a constantly ongoing process at this state of development. It is indeed one of the most harmful and illusory processes imaginable." (PL #180)

"A contact between individuals in which the destructiveness of the lower developed one makes growth, harmony, thriving of good feelings impossible, or in which the contact is overwhelmingly negative, should be severed. As a rule, the higher developed person assumes the necessary initiative to do so. If he does not, there must be unrecognized weaknesses and fears, which need to be faced. If a relationship is dissolved on the ground that it is more destructive and pain producing than constructive and harmonious, it should be done when the inner problems and mutual interactions are fully recognized by him who takes the initiative to dissolve an old tie. This will prevent him from forming a new relationship with similar underlying currents and interactions. It also means that the step of severance occurs as a result of growth rather than as a result of vindictive spite, fear, or escape." (PL #180)

"The tendency to make oneself emotionally dependent on others -- the awareness of which is such an important aspect of the growth process -- is largely due to wanting to absolve oneself from either blame or difficulty when establishing, maintaining, and sustaining a relationship... Doing this renders one indeed helpless and brings about precisely such a state between two equally undesirable alternatives as I just mentioned before: isolation or unending pain and friction with others. It is only when one begins to truly assume self-responsibility by looking at one's own problem in the contact and by willingness to change, that freedom is established and relationships become fruitful and joyous." (PL #180)

"When people who are of uneven spiritual development are involved with one another, it is always the higher developed person who has the responsibility for the relationship. I mean here specifically that he is responsible for searching the depths of the inner level of interaction, responsible for any friction and disharmony between the parties. The lower developed person is not capable of such a search. He is still involved with blaming the other and is dependent on the other's doing "right" in order to avoid unpleasantness or frustration... It is only the spiritually more developed person who is capable of realistic, undualistic perception. He may see that either one of the involved parties may have a deeper problem, which does not eliminate the importance of the possibly much lesser problem of the other person. He will always be willing and able to search his own involvement whenever he is negatively affected by a specific relationship no matter how blatantly at fault the other one may be." (PL #180)