Q. Is divorce against spiritual law?

A. Not necessarily. We do not have fixed rules like that. There are, of course, cases when divorce is an easy way out, a mere escape. There are other cases when divorce is reasonable because the choice was made in immaturity and both partners lack the desire to fulfill the responsibility of marriage in its true sense. If only one is willing, or neither, divorce is better than staying together and making a farce out of marriage. Unless both are willing to take this journey together, it is better to break cleanly rather than to let one prevent the growth of the other. That happens. It is better to terminate a mistake than to remain indefinitely in it without finding an effective remedy. One should not, however, go out of marriage lightly. Even though it was a mistake and does not work, one should try to find the reasons and do one's very best to search out and perhaps overcome the hurdles that are in the way due to one's own inner mistakes, and try to make the best of it if both are in any way willing. It cannot be generalized to say that divorce is either wrong in any case or that it is always right. One should certainly do one's best even if the marriage is not the ideal experience that I discussed tonight. Few people are ready and mature enough for it. You can make yourself ready by trying to make the best of your past mistakes and learn from them.

"When the fusion takes place on all these levels, you not only become one with your partner, but with God." (PL #251)

"The new-age marriage is totally open and transparent. There are no secrets whatsoever." (PL #251)

"The new-age woman combines independence, self-responsibility, full-fledged adulthood with softness and yieldingness."
"The new-age man combines his heart feelings, his softness, his gentleness with his strength and abilities." (PL #251)

"To make a durable and solid relationship in a marriage is the greatest victory man can achieve, for it is one of the most difficult things there are... This life-experience will bring the soul closer to God than the lukewarm good deed." (PL #44)

"He who is unwilling to take the risk of this great adventure upon himself cannot succeed in the greatest venture humanity knows -- marriage." (PL #44)

"The spiritual idea of marriage is to enable the soul to reveal itself and to be constantly on the search for the other; to discover forever and ever new vistas of the other being." (PL #44)




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