Spiritual Wisdom:

"Love is a permanent state in the soul. Love can exist only if the basis for it is prepared through development and purification. Love does not come and go at random." (PL #44)

"The fusion you long for can therefore only be fulfilled if every feeling you long to receive, every single aspect of loving is richly flowing out of you: tenderness; warmth; respect; recognition of the ultimate person with the capacity for growth, change, and goodness; patience; always the benefit of the doubt, always making room for alternative interpretations; trust; giving room to unfold and to be -- all these aspects of loving you so passionately yearn for, you long to be given to you." (PL #207)

"Another aspect of love in a real sense is letting the other be. This means more than just acceptance of where and what he is now. It means the vision of the total person including his or her as yet unrealized potentialities." (PL #207)

"The grace of God is. It exists at all times, penetrating all that is. It exists in the very nature of ultimate reality, which is thoroughly benign." (PL #250)

"So you see, my friends, it is of the greatest importance to recognize that bliss and beauty, which are eternal spiritual realities, are available to all those who seek the key to all problems of human interaction, as well as to loneliness within their own hearts... You cannot ever feel helpless or victimized when the significant transition has taken place in your life, and you no longer render others responsible for what you experience or fail to experience. Thus growth and fulfilled, beautiful living become one and the same.

May you all carry with you new material and inner energy force awakened by your good will. May these words be the beginning of an inner new modality to meet life, to finally make the decision, "I want to risk my good feelings. I want to seek the cause in me rather than in the other person, so that I become free to love." This kind of meditation will indeed bear fruit. If a germ, a particle of this is being carried away tonight, it was truly a fruitful evening. Be blessed, all of you, my dearest friends, so that you become the Gods that you potentially are." (PL #180)

"In order to fuse emotionally, honest exchange, at the risk of occasional crises, is necessary. This honest exchange is totally dependent on the individual's self-honesty and good will to abandon dishonest, hurtful, destructive patterns." (PL #207)

"In order to fuse emotionally, and therefore totally, it is equally necessary to express yourself truthfully toward the other person where this may not be welcome or desired. Not doing so under the guise of "loving goodness" and "taking it" is sentimentality and usually dishonest. For in reality the person merely fears the unpleasant consequences and is thus not willing to risk pain, exposure, confrontation, the hard work of finding reintegration of the relationship on a higher, respectively more profound level. This can be done without guilt and in a healthy way only when you have dealt with and eliminated your cruelty. As long as cruelty exists, you can never, never say the truth to others without hurting them." (PL #207)

"Only when each one grows to his ultimate, to his and her inherent potentials, can the relationship become more and more dynamic and alive. This must be done individually and mutually. When relationship is approached in that way, it will be built on a rock and not on sand. No fear will ever have room under such circumstances. Feelings will expand, and security about the self and each other will grow. Each day and each hour will be a mirror to the inner state of either or both partners and therefore to the relationship. Whenever there is friction or deadness, there must be something stuck, something blind, something that ought to be seen. There must be some interaction between the two people, which is unclarified. If this is understood and properly handled, not only will growth proceed at maximum speed, but happiness, bliss, the feeling of meaningful living and deep profound experience, and ecstasy will grow into forever deeper and more beautiful dimensions." (PL #180)

"Difficulties that arise in a relationship are always a yardstick for something unattended to. It is as though a loud message were being spoken. The sooner it is heeded, the more spiritual energy will be released so that the state of bliss can be expanded and grow along with the inner being of both partners... Every day and every hour, one's inner state and feelings are a testimony to one's state of growth. To the degree this is heeded, the interaction, the feelings, the freedom of flow within and toward each other will blossom. The perfectly mature and spiritually valid relationship must always be deeply connected with personal growth." (PL #180)

"The most challenging, beautiful, spiritually important, and growth-producing kind of relationship is the one between man and woman. The power that brings two people together in love and attraction and the pleasure involved in it are a small aspect of the state of being in cosmic reality. It is as though each created entity knew unconsciously about the bliss of this state and sought to realize it in the most potent way open to humanity. That way is in love and sexuality between man and woman. The power that draws them together is the purest spiritual energy, leading to an inkling of the purest spiritual state." (PL #180)